I’m breaking from the interiors theme tonight, to talk about something that is getting on my wick. (Sorry, I’ve been on a train for two hours) You’re going to think I’m mad, but it’s mindfulness.
The basic definition of mindfulness, courtesy of the Oxford English Dictionary, is: “The quality or state of being conscious or aware of something”.
But anyone who reads the papers or spends time online these days will know that it has morphed into something far bigger. It’s the idea that being aware of and focused on what is happening in your mind, body and surroundings can boost career progression, beat stress and even help you lose weight – it’s like a way of living. Right now, there are 22,855 books relating to mindfulness on Amazon, and the NHS has an advice page on it. Take a look at these headlines:
‘Overcoming fear of public speaking through mindfulness’
‘Why mindfulness helps you sleep and sleep makes you mindful’
‘How a raisin can help you with mindfulness’
Along with the yoga, meditation and thinking about thinking that comes with mindfulness, comes its allies – surely the avocado? And then the sugar free diets, the adult colouring books, the proud sweating at the gym, and most recently, the quest for cosy living like the Danes – ‘hyyge’.
And many people, including me, have bought into it. ‘Hyyge’ has inspired ‘9 ways to be more Danish’ guides in women’s magazines and the BBC calls it “a heart-warming lesson”. I’ve done the diet diary on MyFitnessPal and have dabbled in colouring books (albeit for friends’ birthday presents) – along with 12 million other people in 2015. Mindfulness app The Headspace has over three million users and is worth £25m.
But recently, the very movement that is supposed to make us calm, floaty, successful people has started to feel like a bit too much. Off the top of my head, we are now deemed to be killing it if we can fit yoga, juicing, meditation, #squadgoals, glowing skin, charity work, some sort of extra curricular learning, mind blowing sex and (oh yeah) WORK into one day. With the end goal of what? Running ourselves into the ground?
What was once a little, helpful trend that you could take or leave is now difficult to avoid. I can’t eat a bar of chocolate without worrying about the impact on my blood sugar and life expectancy. I can’t watch GBBO without feeling I should make a showstopper too – and of course, make enough to wow and treat my boyfriend, my workmates, his workmates, the family next door…
I know I’m going to lack ‘that glow’ if I don’t run for a week, or eat avocado on bread instead of a dried out Ryvita. I can’t remember the last time I fell asleep thinking about a lovely holiday or plans for the weekend. It’s work, or self-improvement, or what I should do tomorrow to be fulfilled, and interesting, and good to talk to at dinner parties.
And ‘hyyge’? Well I haven’t read much about this – how much do we need to make of a dressed-up word for cosy. Yes, we’d all quite like a cosy home and live like the Danish. Get a throw.
As Michael Booth points out beautifully in The Guardian: “I suspect happiness is a little more complicated. Here’s my stab at why the Danes are such a satisfied bunch: They are rich, sexy and don’t work very much; they also take more antidepressants than virtually anyone else in the world, and, yes, they like a drink and eat more confectionery and bacon per capita than most.”
So they just give less of a shit, then? Good job we have all that mindfulness and over-thinking to get us there, too…
I’d happily forgive a few more selfish, unthoughtful people in the world if it meant we could make a few more allowances for ourselves, too. We can’t all be kind, or perfect, or not tell other people the cold, hard truth, all the time. If it gets me an afternoon on the sofa, watching uncool films and pigging out on non-organic carbs, without automatically shaming myself on social media and punishing myself the next day, I’m in.
Are you mindfulness nay, or mindfulness yay? Let me know in the comments below.